An ethical therapist doesn’t just sell you on the latest Shiny Therapy Thing. There are situations where an intensive may not be a good fit- at least not right now- so I want to explore a few reasons that might be the case.
You’re in the middle of an active crisis. If you’re currently in crisis, actively suicidal, in immediate danger, or your daily functioning has become unmanageable, an intensive isn’t the appropriate level or type of care. That situation calls for more consistent, ongoing support (and sometimes a higher level of care than outpatient therapy altogether). We’d want you to be stabilized first with inpatient or intensive outpatient support, or a shelter, etc., depending on what’s going on in your life.
You don’t yet have basic regulation skills. If we crack open something big and/or heavy in an intensive and you don’t have a solid toolkit to help yourself settle back down afterward, that can leave you feeling emotionally flooded and worse off, not better. The most useful first step might instead be a stretch of weekly or twice-weekly sessions focused on building and/or strengthening those skills before we ever talk about a trauma intensive. If the intensive model is appealing because of your schedule, it may be worth exploring sets of extended sessions focused directly on building those skills, so we can feel more confident about exploring an intensive.
You do best with consistency and regular check-ins. Some people genuinely do best with the consistency of weekly sessions. They can be a great way to practice implementing skills between sessions, while having a reliable chance to touch base with your therapist and explore adjustments to the skills you practiced the past week. There’s nothing wrong with needing or preferring that method instead! It’s not a lesser form of healing- if the standard weekly approach works well for you, let it!
Your life circumstances don’t allow for adequate rest afterward. Intensives can be emotionally draining. You’re doing hours of deep work, and your nervous system needs space to process and integrate afterward. If your schedule has you going straight from an intensive into a stressful work week with zero time to rest and decompress, we will want to talk about strategic timing to see if there’s a way to make it work for you without excessively draining you.
You’re hoping for a quick fix. If this is what you’re looking for, I totally get it. An intensive can sound appealing partly because it helps you ‘get further, faster.’ But healing is (and we can roll our eyes together here if needed) ~a process~. An intensive can create significant movement, but it’s not a cheat code to get around doing the ongoing work of integrating what comes up.
None of these situations mean intensives are off the table for you forever. They might just mean now isn’t the best time, or that some prep work would set you up for a better experience.