Your kids, your significant other, even your in-laws.
Just as long as they are happy.
Your boss, co-workers(even the one you don’t like)
Just as long as they are happy.
The Cashier at the grocery store. you don’t want her to be uncomfortable.
Just as long as they are happy.
You don’t really matter
You take care of everyone else, and make sure they’re okay- you think you don’t really matter.
Your kids come first. So does your significant other.
And your boss.
Also your coworkers, even the one you don’t really like.
And your parents.
Oh, and your in-laws, sure.
And the cashier at the grocery store!- you don’t want her to be uncomfortable at all.
Really, as long as everyone else is happy and safe, you’re fine! Really.
I can relate. Let’s work on this together.
It’s like your brain doesn’t have an “off” button. You can’t stop overthinking or worrying about situations that probably won’t even happen.
Friends have told you that you take on too much, but you HATE confrontation!- so saying no to someone who needs help doesn’t feel possible. You just want everyone else to be happy- but you’re starting to feel really resentful! You want to start putting yourself first.
At some point, you realized that a lot of the stuff that happened to you was actually really shitty, and not normal. You want to learn from your past and not let it define or control you.
You’ve got all the feels (or none of them?) and don’t know what to do about it. You’re the expert on you; I’m the one who geeks out on the ways emotions and brains and thoughts work together to make people feel anxious, pissed, or calm.
I help people make sense of their automatic responses, understand their emotions, and decide how to set and feel okay about their own boundaries. It’s kind of like reverse psychology, but on yourself: we learn how to acknowledge, accept, and deal with emotions like anger and fear, instead of spending a ton of energy trying to ignore or shove those emotions down. With our powers combined, let’s figure out how you can stop overthinking, cry at times that feel more appropriate, and decide what your limits are for helping other people while still taking care of yourself and those closest to you.
You sometimes have episodes of difficulty breathing and think they might be panic attacks.
You might take weeks making a decision for fear of making the wrong choice. You worry excessively about getting a bad grade or letting someone down.
Your confidence in classes, at work, and in your relationships is quickly failing.
You work really hard in your classes or job but can never shake that feeling that you aren’t good enough.
Your stress levels are so high you worry that if one more thing happens, you may not be able to handle it all.
Your relationships can be intense and lonely at the same time.
If your goal is being able to set a boundary without guilt, that’s a great goal! Spoiler alert, though: it’s a goal that probably won’t be met the first time you give it a go. Which is very normal. Probably, you’ll have to go through a few steps. Maybe… think through areas of life where […]
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the grief of leaving
/in Uncategorized /by Holly ScottDeciding to leave a faith community can really feel like you’re pulling the rug out from under yourself. It can cause grief, a sense of loss – of the community, and also part of your identity. Here are some things that have helped other people: Be patient with the process, and patient with yourself […]